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El arte del coqueteo digital en la era de las apps

Coquetear nunca ha sido tan fácil… ni tan complicado. Con un simple deslizamiento del dedo, puedes tener acceso a cientos de personas interesantes (o no tanto), disponibles, atractivas y con ganas de conectar. Pero con tanta oferta, tanta pantalla y tan poco contacto visual, el arte de seducir ha tenido que reinventarse. Hoy coquetear no es solo un juego de miradas, sino un ejercicio de escritura, emojis bien usados y frases ingeniosas.

En plena era digital, muchas de las conexiones que antes se producían en un bar o en una fiesta, ahora comienzan en una app. Y aunque a veces el objetivo está claro —como en el caso de los encuentros sexuales que muchas personas buscan de forma abierta—, eso no significa que se pueda llegar sin estilo. De hecho, un buen coqueteo puede ser lo que marque la diferencia entre quedar como otro perfil más… o provocar una respuesta que encienda la pantalla y, con suerte, algo más.

¿Seducir por mensaje? Claro que sí (y tiene sus reglas)

Coquetear en línea no es lo mismo que hacerlo en persona. No tienes tono de voz, no tienes contacto visual ni lenguaje corporal. Todo lo que tienes son palabras, tiempos de respuesta… y tu capacidad para generar emociones a través de una pantalla.

El coqueteo digital bien hecho no busca impresionar, sino conectar. Se basa en la ligereza, el humor, el juego sutil. Aquí no valen los halagos vacíos ni las frases copiadas de Internet. Lo que funciona es lo que tiene alma, intención y un toque auténtico.

El primer mensaje: tu carta de presentación

No importa si la conversación comienza en Tinder, Instagram o una app para encuentros más explícitos. El primer mensaje es el que define si habrá conversación… o silencio. Evita los clásicos “Hola, ¿qué tal?” o “¿Estás sola?”. En su lugar, prueba con algo que despierte interés:

“Tu foto con ese libro me intriga… ¿lectura ligera o existencialismo puro?”

“Si tu perfil fuera una película, ¿sería comedia romántica o thriller de acción?”

Un toque de humor + curiosidad real = buena entrada.

Usa el doble sentido con elegancia

Si el tono de la plataforma o de la conversación es más atrevido (como suele pasar en apps centradas en encuentros sexuales), puedes usar insinuaciones o frases con picardía. Pero evita lo vulgar. La línea entre lo sexy y lo crudo es delgada… y muchas veces irreversible.

Una regla de oro: si no lo dirías en una primera cita en persona, no lo pongas en el primer mensaje. El erotismo también se construye con sutileza.

Emojis: tus aliados (si los usas bien)

Un emoji bien colocado puede decir más que tres frases largas. La sonrisa traviesa, la cereza, el fuego, la carita pensativa… todos tienen su lugar. Pero si llenas tu mensaje de 15 símbolos por cada línea, pierdes claridad (y misterio).

Usa los emojis como un condimento, no como el plato principal.

Tiempo de respuesta: ni desesperado, ni fantasma

El coqueteo también está en el ritmo. Si respondes cada cinco segundos como si esperases el mensaje con ansiedad, puedes agobiar. Pero si desapareces por dos días después de un “me encantaría verte”, el interés puede enfriarse.

La clave está en la reciprocidad. Si la otra persona responde rápido y con ganas, haz lo mismo. Si se toma su tiempo, acompaña el ritmo. Y si te interesa de verdad… no juegues a hacerte el ocupado. Se nota.

El humor es el nuevo perfume digital

¿Sabes qué es más atractivo que un selfie en el gimnasio? Hacer reír. El humor genera confianza, cercanía y deseo. No necesitas ser un comediante profesional, basta con mostrar tu lado ligero, bromear sobre lo cotidiano o soltar una ironía bien medida.

Ejemplo real:

Ella: “Hoy ha sido un día eterno.”

Él: “Si te sirve, puedo hacerte olvidar las horas con mi receta secreta de tacos… o al menos intentarlo.”

Seducción gourmet.

Sé directo, pero no impaciente

En el mundo digital, donde muchos buscan experiencias rápidas, la tentación de ir “al grano” es fuerte. Pero incluso en los encuentros más efímeros, a la gente le gusta sentirse deseada, no usada. Puedes ser claro sin ser brusco:

“Me pareces muy atractiva, y me encantaría compartir algo intenso contigo. ¿Tú qué buscas aquí?”

Una frase así abre la puerta al deseo sin cerrarla al respeto.

La videollamada, nueva herramienta sexy

Antes de una cita (o de un encuentro más íntimo), una videollamada puede ser perfecta para afinar la conexión. Ver las expresiones, escuchar la voz, sentir la química… todo eso suma. Y también evita malentendidos.

Si el coqueteo digital va bien, invitar a un “vino virtual” puede ser el paso ideal antes de decidir verse en persona.

Y sobre todo: autenticidad, siempre

No inventes un personaje. No exageres. No copies frases de otros perfiles. Las personas notan la falsedad digital más rápido de lo que parece. El verdadero arte del coqueteo está en mostrar lo mejor de ti sin dejar de ser tú.

Incluso si solo buscas una noche, hacerlo con estilo y sinceridad hará que esa noche sea mucho mejor.

Seducir con palabras también es un arte

En la era de las apps, el coqueteo ya no es solo cuestión de miradas. Es saber escribir, leer entre líneas, reírse con el otro y despertar deseo… con un mensaje. Y eso, bien hecho, puede ser tan poderoso como el mejor perfume o la sonrisa más encantadora.

Porque al final, detrás de cada pantalla hay alguien que también quiere sentir algo. Aunque sea solo por una noche.

Y si ese “algo” empieza con un mensaje bien lanzado… entonces que viva el arte del coqueteo digital

 

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“I Met My Mr. Right In The End…”

Hi everyone,

We’ve got another great success story for you! Mary joined justdublindating.com over 18 months ago, and after several dates she finally met her Mr. Right. This is her story…

After a message from Jim about 6 months ago we chatted online for a couple of weeks. Sadly, Jim was in the process of relocating and we lost touch. About 2 months ago I noticed he was back online so I sent him a message asking how the move had gone. He replied very quickly and suggested we met for coffee as he now lived just 30 mins drive away. Coffee turned into lunch and we both felt a mutual attraction. We had a lot in common and more importantly, the same family values. We met the following week at a riverside restaurant and over a romantic meal we both knew we were meant to meet. We had our first real kiss that evening and both knew this was the start of a meaningful relationship. We are going on holiday in May and looking forward to lazy romantic days in the sun. It took a while but I met my Mr. Right in the end. My advice to everyone looking for love is NEVER GIVE UP! It will happen.”

What a great story! We looking forward to seeing the holiday snaps, and wish Jim and Mary all the best for the future.

 

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“Wayne Proposed And I Happily Accepted!”

Do we hear wedding bells…?

Today we received an email from Zarina who met her partner Wayne on justdublindating.com. This is her story…

I just wanted to thank your website for helping me find the man of my dreams.

I had been single for some time and when I joined justdublindating Parents. I had a few dates but nothing exciting.  When Wayne “winked” at me I wasn’t excited but more curious, and after a string a emails we decided to exchange numbers.

We hit it off straight away built up a really good rapport and decided to meet for a coffee.  Although it wasn’t love at first sight, we still got on really well and continued to meet with each other. It was on our 4th coffee meeting that I knew I liked Wayne, his smile and laugh made me happy, and we have seen each other ever since! We kissed that night and I love him to bits, as do my kids and the rest of my family. We have been out to restaurants, shopping and some play dates with the kids, all of which has been great fun. I know Wayne is the one and we have openly discussed our future plans,and we want the same things like marriage, a mortgage and a new car, and that’s just for starters!

6 weeks after meeting and 8 weeks after our first contact Wayne proposed and I happily accepted!

I really didn’t think that I would ever find the happiness I have with Wayne, but I’m over the moon! Keep looking, don’t judge every book by its cover, you never know what you might find! I can’t imagine my life without Wayne now, and I can’t wait to start planning our wedding!

 

 

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“It’s Like The Young Love We Both Hoped For…”

“I saw Suzanne on justdublindating about mid-January this year and as I thought she looked good, had an appealing profile and lived very close, so I made her a favourite. This provoked an interesting response in the form of a message that said “Why favourite?”  This was a new approach so I sent a message back saying “Why not!“. We exchanged a couple more messages and agreed to meet at a well known location which had country walks and a cafe. We met at the appointed place and time and there was an immediate frisson between us, so we walked a while – didn’t hold hands – and went for a coffee afterwards. During all this time we talked and talked so, by the time we parted, without a kiss or even exchanging phone numbers, we knew there was something special happening, which is why I didn’t push for anything more, not even Suzanne’s phone number. The attraction was immediate and I didn’t want to push too hard and maybe scare her off.

I had to go away for a few days and when I returned I mailed Suzanne, told her how I felt about her and she said the same about me. She visited me at home the following day, we sat and talked, drank tea, talked some more and realised that this was the start of something very different from the expectations we both had about internet dating. By the time she went home I think we both realised that we had found in each other a feeling which was difficult to quantify or ignore so we met a few times more, sometimes at her place, sometimes at mine, but always with a deeper commitment after each date. By the end of that week I think we were lost to anybody else, totally involved and very happy with the way things were going. The interesting thing is that we both feel the time was right for us to meet. Any earlier or later and it might not have worked but that point in time was the pre-ordained time for us to meet.

That was 10 weeks ago now that we first met and we have spent most our time together getting to know one another, our quirks and foibles, likes and dislikes, hopes and expectations, and even very early on, the commitment we felt ready to make to each other. We’ve been out three or four times on our own – we each have a dog so it’s difficult to spend more than a few hours together, but we find that those few hours, added to the numerous times we’ve visited each other’s home over the weeks, have shown us that we now know that we want to be together. We are now looking for a place to rent, somewhere to call “ours“. We are able to help each other bury the bits of the past we both want to forget and, despite our ages – Suzanne is 60 and I’m 68 – we feel we are re-born and are starting out on life’s journey again, but with the knowledge that we know what we want and are finding it in each other.

It’s like the young love we have both hoped for and sought all our lives.

I, for one, never believed I would feel wanted and needed as much as I do with Suzanne. I have always been a romantic at heart but have never believed in love at first sight, having drifted into my previous marriages  – but I do now though, completely! The hours we spend together, just sitting, talking, holding hands or cuddling, relaxing in each others arms, building the blocks that go to make a successful relationship, just seem to whizz by and all too soon it’s time to part for a couple of days. Her shift-work pattern doesn’t allow a regular date so we catch as much as we can when we can but we know that with the changes we are making, the adjustments we are both making, our life together will be one of happiness, contentment and deep, deep love. I am looking forward to spending the rest of my time on this twig in love with, and being loved by, Suzanne. We will get married later this year when we are more settled, wherever we are.

To find my soul-mate at my time of life is just the most wonderful feeling so I say to others – don’t give up. It doesn’t matter how many frogs you meet, somewhere out there, and maybe closer than you think, is that special someone who makes your life complete and worthwhile so just go for it.

I wish all your members success in their search for love, or whatever they seek, and never give up trying. It took me nearly a year to find Suzanne, having registered with various dating sites, but we would never have met without the internet.

Thank you very much, all of you at justdublindating.  You have been able to make me very happy when I thought that would not happen again.

John.”

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“I Hope Others Find The Right Person, As I Did!”

“I first contacted Chris by saying hi on the site, and Chris replied here is my email address as my membership runs out in a few days. I contacted Chris and swapped phone numbers and arranged to meet after talking on the phone. What attracted us to each other was our shared interest in dogs, living only 10 mins away from each other plus having company to go to events.

Our first date was a Sunday lunch time at a pub, we met in the car park and greeted each other with a kiss on the cheek, then went into the pub for a drink. Our first snog was during having a smoke outside on a very windy day. Further dates, meals out, clay pigeon shooting, and shopping that I hate! Plus been invited to wedding reception. Hopes are to enjoy holidays together. Chris spends as much time as she can at my home and will move in the near future. I hope others find the right person, as I did.

Colin.”

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3 Dates 3 Months – The One Where She Found Her Mr. Darcy

 

We’ve been so excited about sharing this blog post with you. 3 Dates 3 Months challenger, The Mummy Blogger has closed the curtains on the challenge after meeting someone special on justdublindating.com. Read on to find out what happened…

Those readers who’ve been following my dating exploits over the last few weeks will remember that I was chosen to be one of the justdublindating #3dates3mths bloggers recently and was given the task of finding 3 different dates over 3 months and showing that ‘love blossoms in the unlikeliest of places’.

I was keen to take up my challenge and had thought of the ways I could get out there, flutter my feathers, stretch my wings and get this little bird flying again.  What I didn’t expect on was that my first date would go quite so well as it did.  My date was to be a simple traditional affair, drinks and dinner at a restaurant of my choice.  Somewhere I felt comfortable and at ease.  Always a good idea when you’re out for a first date as it gives you confidence.

The night was a fabulous evening, brilliantly flowing conversation, witty jokes, little moments of intimacy, a hand touch, a shoulder brush, a common denominator we didn’t expect but that which made us both smile.  A gentleman is a rare thing in 2014, men have forgotten their manners in general, and no more is about wooing and courting a lady and making her feel like a million dollars and she’s the only woman in the room.  If there’s one thing that online dating shows you is just how many guys out their masquerade behind fake photographs and promises.

My date though does not fall into that category and for the best part of three hours I felt like the only woman in the room as he was attentive to my words, intrigued by how the art of blogging works and we talked business ideas and what makes each other tick.  We laughed over stories of our past and come the end of the evening when the bill arrived there was none of this ‘going Dutch’ principal.  He offered to pay and flatly refused any attempt by me to do so.


Walking in the teeming rain to my car it was a gentlemanly arm around me holding an umbrella, I felt like Audrey Hepburn and instead of a pouncing, groping kiss goodnight it was a delicate kiss on each cheek and a promise to ‘do this again’.  Then a text to say what a lovely night and was I home safely.  Manners and a genuine interest go a long way.

So have we ‘done it again’?  Yes we have.  In fact we’ve done several dates since.  All equally wonderful, good fun and relaxing.  Our conversation continues to flow like a stream finding it’s path through the mountains, gentle, free flowing and refreshing.  There’s a refreshing honesty in our relationship – there’s a no bullshit attitude from both of us.  I’m 35 not 25 and don’t want to be faffing about doing this dating thing for ever, neither does Mr Darcy.

Afternoons with each other at the weekend are relaxed and laid back, a country pub somewhere, a meal out, little comments from him to remind me I am special and have qualities that are endearing and let’s face it every woman loves a compliment and it’s often the case that we don’t get enough of them.


So am I doing any more dates as part of my #3dates3mths challenge?  No.  Mr Darcy is ticking all my boxes and I am ticking his, there’s a long way to go and hurdles to climb but we’ve agreed that we’d like to climb them with each other and so for now I am playing Elizabeth and enjoying the attentions that dating Mr Darcy brings.

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